Why Reconciliation Matters Before It's Too Late

We all have someone in our lives we've drifted away from—maybe through misunderstanding, hurt feelings, or simply time. But what happens when life gives you one last chance to make it right?

C. Edward Mason’s deeply moving book Good Grief for Now and Later tells story after story of how people experience loss—and the unique ways they process it. One account that stands out is his reconciliation with his brother after 22 years of silence. The rift had formed over a misunderstanding about funeral expenses and lack of communication. It wasn't until his brother became terminally ill that Mason felt prompted to visit him and ask the question: Why didn’t you call me?

His brother’s simple reply: “You didn’t call me either.”

That moment of shared accountability opened the door to healing—a weekend of conversation, prayer, laughter, and reconnection before it was too late. In fact, that conversation helped Mason reaffirm his calling as a church deacon and inspired the very book that helps others process their grief today.

What This Teaches Us

We don’t always get the luxury of time. Waiting for “the right moment” to fix a broken relationship could mean waiting until it’s too late. The lesson is simple, yet profound:

Don’t wait until the funeral to wish you had made peace.

3 Reasons to Reconcile Now

1. It Brings Peace of Mind

   • Reconciliation removes the burden of “what if.” It frees you from regrets that often haunt the grieving process.

2. It Heals Both Sides

   • Like Mason’s story shows, both parties often carry silent pain. A single moment of honesty can begin the healing for both.

3. It Honors the Legacy

   • Whether it's a parent, sibling, or old friend, reconciliation shifts the focus from the pain of the past to the possibility of peace and closure.

Simple Steps to Start the Process

• Make the First Move: Don’t wait for the other person. A call, a text, a letter—anything is better than nothing.

• Speak from the Heart: Be honest. Apologize if needed. Forgive if possible.

• Focus on the Present: You’re not trying to fix the entire past—just to create a better ending.

Final Thought

In the words of C. Edward Mason:

“It may not be too late to do what is in your heart right now. Don’t put it off any longer.”

Whether the relationship heals fully or only partially, you’ll know you tried. And in the midst of grief, that can make all the difference.